Thanks to Chris Zimmerman for the link!
This article is pretty disturbing. The end gives tips for kids and parents who are trying to fend off bullies. Wish it gave some specific tips for parents who fear their kids ARE bullies or potential bullies.
Having said that, I see some of the bully traits in Tommy SOME of the time... but certainly not all of them and DEFINITELY not all the time. Tom really loves people in general but there are a few kids who, for whatever reason, he gets easily annoyed with or feels threatened by. Aside from his brother, in fact, there are 2 kids he has this problem with - one of whom annoys him and the other of whom he feels threatened by. As far as the brother thing goes, I think it is 100% normal... but I may be lying to myself.
So can a kid be a bully if he only hits 3 kids in his life and (tries to be) sweet as pie to the rest of the world? (.....Oh, except for the lady at church who patted his head during The Peace when he was trying to read a book. He sure gave her a growl and nasty look!)